Tag: Self-love


What’s on my nightstand: You are a badass!

While I love to read, I haven’t had much time to do it during the past eight years. I’m not complaining as I wouldn’t have it any other way, just stating a fact.

When I do find a few minutes at night before my head hits the pillow, you’ll always find me with a self-love book in hand. I prefer not to use the term “self-improvement” as I feel like it has a negative connotation even though it shouldn’t since life is one big playground for us to continuously learn and grow on.

Right now, I have three self-love books sitting on my nightstand:”Carry On Warrior” by Glennon Doyle Melton, “E3” by Pam Grout, and of course “You are a Badass!” by Jen Sincero. If you know me well, then you know I don’t believe in accidents which is the case with “You Are a Badass.” This badass book could’t have made a more timely entrance into my life.

About a month ago, I started to go down what I refer to as the “rabbit hole,” otherwise known as that dark place when fear overcomes your body. I started second guessing my decision to launch my own business, starting rethinking every option I could pursue, and starting driving everyone crazy around me including myself! Thankfully, my good friend and birthday twin, BethAnn, came to my rescue by encouraging me to run not walk to our local Barnes and Noble.

As a self-proclaimed connoisseur of self-love looks, I was curious to see if I would learn anything new. Talk about a moment of glass half empty mentality! But the author had me at the introduction with this profound nugget: “You’ll have to believe in things you can’t see as well as things that you have full-on proof are impossible. You’re gonna have to push past your fears, fail over and over again and make a habit of doing things you’re not so comfy doing. You’re going to have to let go of old, limiting beliefs and cling to your decision to create the life you desire like your life depends on it.”

As for learning something new, if you could see my copy right now, you’d probably laugh at how many pages have the corners turned in and/or are highlighted. Yes, it’s that GOOD. Admittedly, there are some insights and advice that I have heard before but I think it’s Jen’s approach and unique point of view that made them hit home a bit different this time around.

I seriously can’t get enough of this book and have a feeling it will be a staple on my nightstand for years to come. Nothing like a little self-love, essential oils, friends and family to get you through the rough patches!

With love, lipstick and lavender,




White soft angel's wings and paper heart pinned on wooden light turquoise background.

Building a self-love tool box: Angel wings

As the mother of two young girls, I’m already bracing myself for those oh-so-fun “transformative” teenage years. You know, the ones where hormones take over their bodies and they repeatedly test your vow to love them unconditionally? Yeah, those ones.

Little did I know I’d start getting doses of those hormones at the ripe age of seven. Instead of testing my love, those sweet little emotions broke my heart.

Similar to me, my eldest daughter is a very sensitive soul and easily wounded by the world around her. Perhaps I was being naïve in thinking that she would be sheltered from how challenging this journey called “life” can be until at least the fourth or fifth grade. But unfortunately, she’s already started experiencing what I would describe as the early stages of bullying.

How do I explain to a seven year-old that the world is set-up this way? That it’s one big training ground for all of us to evolve and grow, mean people included?

Since I don’t know the answer to that question yet, I decided to start with what I do know and what I know she can understand—angels.

Before we left the Bay area to move to San Diego, I gave each of my best girlfriends an angel wing necklace with the following inscription: “Angels help us rise above all that tries to hold us down.”

When my daughter’s tears started flowing, I promptly took off my angel wings and gave them to her as a reminder that she can rise above anyone or anything that tries to hold her down. Of course being the essential oil lover that I am, I also rubbed a blend of joy, orange and fractionated coconut oil on her wrists and neck.

It’s been a few months since she started wearing her angel wings and she seems to be less bothered by the daily trials and tribulations of life in elementary school. That’s not to say we don’t experience doses of those emotions, but at least we have some tools in place to help her work through them.

Continue to rise above my little one, rise above.

With love, lipstick and lavender,